I’ve come to a revelation.

As adults – teachers, parents, grandparents, guardians, neighbors, paraprofessionals, volunteers, community members, administrators, business people, and humans – bullying behavior is our fault.

We model it in all our systems and most corporations.

We model it as a nation.

And we do nothing to REALLY make it stop.

I believe (and research supports) that bullying is simply a symptom.

It’s a symptom of organizational and societal culture that doesn’t value everyone, doesn’t strive to welcome all people, and fails to meet the needs of the most vulnerable.

It makes it okay to tease, name-call, and put down those who are different, who struggle, who seem weak and vulnerable.

It makes it okay to bully.

Think about it.  When we talk about bullying, people identify that it happens everywhere:

  • Parents who bully children
  • Teachers who bully students
  • Straights who bully gays
  • Bosses who bully their employees
  • Dogs who bully cats

You get the picture?

Did you know we have the research, strategies, and tools to fix it?

Yet we don’t.

It would require change.

Changing it isn’t easy.  It requires a paradigm shift.  It requires learning some new ways to do things.

It requires CHANGE.

Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do it.

Why don’t we? Why don’t you?

I can’t think of how much clearer it could be to trace the lineage of responsibility and accountability.

Then there’s the other problem with what we think we are doing….

We tell kids to tell adults in their world about the bullying they experience or witness.

But most adults don’t know what to do.  Do you?

That means the one thing we think we are doing, is actually a disservice to, a betrayal of, the very people who are turning to us for help.

Think about the parents, students, teachers, and communities that knew a student was being bullied by their peers.

And yet the only recourse the student could find was suicide.

The next time a kid dies as the result of bullying – and there will BE a next time – check your outrage.

Who is really to blame?

What are YOU doing to make it different?

Are you ready to learn more about what you can do?

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With Respect,

Leah R. Kyaio, M.Ed.

Leah is actively engaged in Educational Consulting, providing Professional Development Training, Executive Coaching & Consulting, Instructional Coaching & Mentoring, and Organizational Development. All of her work is through the lens of creating environments of equity and respect where learning is fun and functional. Contact her for more information about what she has to offer.